Kindness is a virtue, but if it is used against the wrong person, it becomes a shackle. We often hold an umbrella for others, but forget that we are also in the rain. If the other party never understands and only takes your efforts for granted, the relationship will lose balance. The truly worthy person will pull you into the umbrella when you are soaking wet, rather than letting you bear the whole storm alone.
The most precious companionship is not an expensive gift, but the willingness to make time for you. I can be very idle for you, reply to messages immediately, and answer calls at any time, just because you are important. I am always there when you look for me, not because I have nothing to do, but because you are worth putting aside everything else. As long as you are here, I will never be busy.
When a relationship makes you feel irritated and uneasy for a long time, and you cannot improve it through hard work, leaving may be the best choice. It is not because the other person is not good, but because you have become bad in this relationship. A healthy relationship should bring growth and peace, not consumption and depression. Learning to leave is the greatest fulfillment and protection for yourself.
Maturity is not about suppressing emotions, but knowing how to express them properly at the right time, facing difficulties rationally and solving problems proactively. A man's childish behavior is often a relaxation shown to the person he trusts, which does not mean immaturity. True maturity is the ability to coexist peacefully with oneself and others. When only one side in a relationship requires "maturity, stability and making others happy", it will only cause imbalance and ignore the fact that the other party is also a person who needs emotional value. Maturity should be a process of mutual understanding and growth between both parties.
I have always been able to distinguish the difference between "liking" and "loving", and even though I have had many physical relationships, I always confessed them in advance. What I yearn for is the old-fashioned love that can last a lifetime, with true devotion and never leaving. Even though I am often hurt and misunderstood, I still believe that there is always someone worth waiting for and worth my all-out love.
I am often asked whether I will publish another book. I don’t have any definite plans to publish a book at the moment. After all, the types of articles I write are too broad. After I have accumulated enough articles of each type, I may release multiple e-books at once and consider making them into audio books.
When you are at the lowest point in life, those who are willing to believe in you and encourage you are the real benefactors. People who always like to belittle you are often just a projection of their inferiority complex and there is no need to keep them in your life. People who are truly worth making friends with can make you feel comfortable and confident. Remember to help others and good luck will come back to you.
When you meet someone who is chronically negative, you should be honest with yourself about your ability to handle it. If you cannot handle it, you should keep your distance to avoid emotional friction on both sides. In the early stages, you can listen patiently and give neutral advice, but if the other person has no intention of changing and complains repeatedly, you should clearly express your refusal to become an emotional trash can. Only by walking with people with positive energy can you go further and have a better life.
The main reason I bought this house in Yilan was because it had a small garden, which is what I have told my guests over the years that this is the kind of residence they have been pursuing. In front of the house is the vast, unobstructed countryside, and in the distance you can see the magnificent mountains. This place is very convenient, with beautiful scenery, chirping insects and birds. I have decided from the beginning that this is where my children will rest in peace.
I used to think that the person next to me was the most reliable, but I found that the deepest wounds often come from the people I care about the most. Love begins as gentle as drizzle, but often ends in determination and indifference. He learned not to trust easily and not to open up completely. Time may dilute everything, but it cannot erase the scars. Growth is inevitable, but hurt is not worth being grateful for. From then on, he smiled in the crowd and remained silent in the night. He learned to be reserved, to be on guard, and to move forward alone.
