This morning a friend asked me, "What should I do if I am constantly being emotionally blackmailed by my relatives and friends?"
He said he had a friend who told him that this situation had been going on for more than ten years. He often heard him talk about these troubles, but felt that he could not help.
I suggested that he tell his friend to first be honest with himself and ask himself if he could still withstand such emotional pressure.
If you really can't bear it anymore, you should choose to keep your distance, give the minimum basic care, and have less contact, which is always better than both sides constantly draining each other's emotions.
My friend also asked me, how would I respond if I met someone who often complained about life, work, or other troubles?
At the beginning, of course I would listen patiently, after all, there are times when people need to talk.
If the other party is willing to seek help, I will listen carefully and try my best to give some neutral and objective opinions.
People are always confused by the situation they are in. The parties involved are often easily caught in an emotional whirlpool and are trapped in prison because they cannot see the full picture of the matter.
But if the same thing happens over and over again without any change or action, then it is clear that the other person has no intention of adjusting and is just using me as an outlet for his or her emotions.
If this situation really happens, I will definitely scold you!
I will find an appropriate time to tell him tactfully but clearly not to keep saying the same thing over and over again.
Because this kind of behavior is actually a form of invisible emotional blackmail against others, and it is also the beginning of internal friction.
After all, I am not a paid psychologist. There is no need to exhaust myself endlessly and become a trash can for other people's negative energy.
Although I am an atheist, I still believe in the theory of magnetic fields. The relationship between people is a kind of mutual influence of energy.
People with positive energy can inspire you to become better; while people with negative energy will only make you consume yourself and gradually lose your direction.
Life is like this. When you are with beautiful people, you will become more elegant. When you are with sunny people, you will naturally be in a cheerful mood. When you are with happy people, you will always have a smile on your face. When you are with smart people, you will become wiser in doing things. When you get along with generous people, you will be more tolerant. And when you are with wise people, you will not be easily confused when you encounter difficulties.
How far a person can go always depends on who he walks with.
The kind of people you choose to associate with often determines half of what kind of life you will live in the future.
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